My Definition of Success is Happiness!
My family makes me happy, therefore, I am successful!
Sunday, July 5, 2009
The Alpha and Omega
I mentioned to one of my mother's life long friends that I was going to three funerals and two weddings all within a few days of each other this past week and a half. I said something about the beginnings and ends of happenings in our lives. He jokingly said that he wasn't sure which, (the weddings or the funerals) were which. We both laughed at his joke. I mean these 3 funerals were of his friends, as well, and he was able to see humor in my comment. Later, I started thinking about what he had said, and I realized that he probably wasn't really, deep-down joking. He was probably being serious. Yes, death is an end, but is it really? Death is the end to the life that we know on Earth, but I believe it is the beginning of an eternal life that is much better than the one here. Death is a time when our loved ones come together to celebrate our life. To remember our contributions to our families, friends, communities, etc.... These funerals that I attended really made me think about what, if any, impact my life has had, is having, and will have on those around me. Will anyone remember me for being special to them in some way, or will I just be the person who was their 6th grade teacher, that lady who sang in the choir, that woman who sewed alot, etc.....? I think we all have a calling. I believe that God created each of us to do something with the talents and intelligence and personalities He has given us. I think most of us have trouble figuring out exactly what that calling is. I need to do some soul searching. Please don't be offended if your beliefs are different from mine. Many people have different beliefs from mine, and that is ok, because I don't claim to know it all or have all the answers. Actually, I don't know much and have very few answers. I respect everyone's beliefs and differences. I don't tolerate them; that would mean that I didn't respect them, but that I just gritted my teeth and pretended that they didn't exist. I truly think that each person has a right to his or her own belief foundation. And, weddings, well, yes, they are beginnings. They are beautiful beginnings. The most beautiful beginning in my opinion is the beginning of family. Whether or not a couple has children, they are joining another family and encircling themselves with new sisters, brothers, parents, aunts, uncles, and if they choose, children of their own. My DH and I started our life together 36 1/2 years ago. We were very fortunate to be surrounded by loving families. We were most fortunate and blessed to have three beautiful, smart, sweet daughters. They have further blessed us with three fantastic SILs. One of our DDs and her husband celebrated 11 years together back in May and have given us three precious grandchildren. Another DD and SIL celebrated their 4th a few days ago and have given us another adorable grandchild. Our youngest DD and her DH will celebrate their 4th in a few months, and they, too, have blessed us with a sweet grandchild. These have been glorious beginnings. Marriage is a beginning to many wonderful events in our lives. However, a marriage is also an end to many things. It is an end to singleness. It is an end to being dependent on parents for some. It is an end to loneliness for some. It is an end to not having a shoulder to lean on when needed, or not having someone with whom to celebrate life's wonderful moments. Marriage can be seen as the end of independence. It could be the end of happiness for some. I know that many marriages aren't happy and should have never been, my parents' for example, but then I wouldn't be here, hum..? I pray that each person who enters marriage can have a happy and blissful life. This would be a little naive of me, however. Marriage isn't all easy, and if anyone ever tells you it is that person is not telling the truth or his/her head is in the clouds. I also pray that those who haven't found marriage to be what it is meant to be, will find the inner strength to go on to find happiness. Boy, I did not mean to get this deep into these subjects, but here it is. Now, to go put some more thought into all of this rambling. Thanks to those of you who give well wishes to my Mother. She seems a little better today. We seem to be on a roller coaster ride. I have never liked roller coasters!
I am a grandmommma who loves to sew. I also love any creative outlet that I can express myself in, such as painting, drawing, sherenshnitte, and writing. I am the "baby girl" of my mother who is in a nursing home. I wish I could get into her head to understand what is going on in there sometimes. I will reflect upon my observations, therefore, using this as a therapy of sorts for myself.